Katie and Dustin Malethich, four -year -old parents of Oregon, have gone viral on social media for a time of parenting that has caused some debate.
After Dustin’s children, 9, Tommy told his mother to “cool”, he was in charge of making several impulses and 60 squats as a form of discipline.
The training encountered a father-child conversation about the tone in which he should talk to his mother. Tommy was attentive and apologized to his mother.
Dustin Malethich, who is an officer of prison corrections, ended the confrontation with a “i love you” and a hug.
While some praised the stepfather by their approach, others were worried about using physical exercise as a form of punishment.
Dyan Hes, a pediatrician and medical director of Highline Modern Medicine in New York, reacted to this discipline method in an interview with Fox News Digital, calling it a “ridiculous punishment”.
“If you have ever done 60 squats, you know that it is painful, especially in a young person,” he said. “Regardless, it is still a form of body punishment. Exercise should invoke positive, non -negative connotations.”
The educational psychologist and the parenting expert, Dr. Michele Borba, shared a different perspective, saying that the stepfather approached the “correct way” responding calmly and applying a punishment that seemed familiar and feasible for the child.
California -based expert was more concerned about how the online video post could emotionally affect the child and invoke “public shame”.
In an interview with the camera with Fox News Digital, the Malethich family shared this physical form is not used as a punishment for their children, but as a method of teaching self -control and emotional regulation.
“It’s never like,” he punishes you because you were bad, “Katie Malethich said.” He is, “Hey, we help you to find out a better self -control and a better outlet for everything that happens.”
Dustin Malethich added: “We try to make the consequences correlate with inappropriate behavior. If you show the inability to control your actions then doing physical activities, show you to control your actions.”
“There are many times that I was frustrated,” he continued. “I can’t let go of my boss. I can’t call someone. I can’t throw a fool. It’s not the way the world works.”
The couple shared that their eldest daughter, 13, decides to walk or jog if their emotions feel out of control, before having a conversation with their parents.
)[Our daughter] He said, “I do not want to have a conversation of sitting with you when I am crunchy,” but when he is going to the rolling tape, he said he finds that he is later able to better communicate his feelings because he is more focused, “said Katie Malethich.
“We like to work.
He said fitness is a “positive bonding experience” for the briefings. “They feel better and see it later … they are happier, they are less frustrated. And so we see it as a victory.”
This focus of discipline can differ for each child and circumstance, the shared briefcase, which involve “intent and intuition”.
“The most important thing is just learning to respond as a parent instead of reacting,” Katie said.
The focus of the parenting couple is “we are not raising children, we are raising adults,” Dustin shared.
“I think to be more aware of the way our children will be able to handle life when they are adults, it is more important than to find out how to make them happy and comfortable right now,” Katie said.
For other parents, Katie said that physical activity has worked “really well” when “connection and conversation”.
“It’s a really essential part of this,” he said. “You have to explain them later and ensure that this connection, both emotionally and with the subject and consequence, is there.”
The couple also responded to the reaction they received after posting the video, mentioning that they asked their child before sharing it. Responded in the hope that he would go viral.
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